It is a
small metaphor I am working on. Sometimes it is in the family, sometimes on the
job, sometimes with friends.
So I am in
the middle of the lake, don’t know how to swim, and good-minded people of all backgrounds
shout: “SWIM TO THE SHORE!”
Now, I cannot reach the shore with my hands but
while wildly swinging and kicking with my arms and legs, I manage to shout
back: “I DON’T KNOW HOW TO SWIM!”
And immediate response from the shore comes
back: “IT IS EASY! JUST SWING WITH YOUR ARMS LIKE THIS, AND DO WITH YOUR LEGS
LIKE THAT!” Good advice, right :)?!
Well, I feel
down sometimes. And lots of people around me don’t want to see me blue or depressed.
So they start giving me advice: ‘You shouldn't be in your room, you need to get
out!’ or ‘Strolls would help you! Go to nature and walk!’ or ‘You need to find
something you like and just do it, that will snap you out of it!’
Great! I am
drowning because I cannot swim, and people are telling me the obvious: ‘If you
knew how to swim you could get to the shore easily!’
Now, unless I am depressed or
blue for the first time in my life – you could say it is something new to learn – then no sweat about it. But if
I am clinically depressed and have episodes, it sounds more like dear people
telling me: ‘Stupid, all you have to do to get better is doing these things you
already know…!’
And I am
back in the middle of the lake and they are shouting: ‘Just swim.’ Now I am unwillingly
swallowing some lake water, feeling really bad – not knowing if I can get anyhow
back to the shore and all motivation I get is – do one thing you are currently not
capable of doing.
Don’t know
about you, but I get frustrated about it. And yes, there are situation in job
finding like that, when you are not up to something right now, and nice people
around you implicitly advise you: ‘Stupid, all you have to do is do that thing
you currently cannot do!’
How do you
feel when that happens?
Does it happen to you too?
Please share.
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